Bama Raised

Actually she is a very close person in my life; she called me crying, because her boyfriend came home and told her that he wanted to be single. I must add that they are both on 20 yrs old and have a 3 month old daughter. I sit for about an hour and just listened to her cry.

She thinks that her life is over. At 20 years old, she thinks that her life is over. I reminded her how strong and beautiful she was, and that her family has always supported her in whatever mistake/decision she has or will ever make.

Maybe I am a little biased because this is my baby sister but at this very moment I hate her boyfriend. I realize that both of them are young, and odds were that they may not make it. From the first time I meet her boyfriend, I knew he was a boy…in all definitions of the word. He is use to having what he wants at all times and my sister and the baby are taking away from his “shine.”

My baby sister has always has that “I can take of myself” attitude; growing up you could never tell her anything, because she already knew it. She would sneak out and lie, and say that no one understood her, but she never understood how much I really did. She came to stay with me for about 3 months after she graduated high school; I remember us having a conversation about relationships. She told me she wanted something like I had. I felt pretty privileged. I told her it takes hard work. There are times when you are gonna have to hold a little more weight than him and the other way around. There ALWAYS has to be respect. You shouldn’t have to ask for it; it should just be there. He needs to make you laugh. It is not easy, but it is worth it.

I also told her it takes time. She has was only in this relationship for about 1.5 years, and now they have a daughter. She is the one holding everything now…not him…